No matter how wonderful your relationship, everyone goes through phases of “not so great”. No relationship is immune to larger known issues, nor to the small stuff that leaves us out of sorts with each other. The good news? It’s not the end; and it doesn’t mean that things won’t go back to being love dovey.
Along with the good news, there’s some bad news. When you’re part of a troubled twosome it can be difficult to see ahead to better times. And that lack of clarity can make people do some really stupid things; all in the hopes of saving their relationship.
Which is all very understandable. If you’re in that situation and need some help getting things turned around, read on for three things you definitely should NOT do to get your relationship back on track. And by the way, the baby thing? I so did not do that.
Go for a Baby
It’s said that this even needs mentioning, but apparently it does. Too many people labor under the illusion that bringing a child into the mix will strengthen their ailing relationship and nothing could be further from the truth. Tricking a partner into an “accidental” pregnancy is nothing short of repugnant.
Invade your partner’s privacy
“I know that if I sneak a peak at his email and text messages I’ll gain some insight into what he’s thinking. If I can do that I can fix all our problems”. Are you crazy?? Besides possibly breaking the law this is bound to get you broken up. Deliberately snooping through someone’s private business is never okay.
Checking up on a partner by surreptitiously rifling through his communications is a road that goes straight to a freak out. If you find something chances are it’ll be inadmissible in court (’cause what you’re doing is probably illegal) and you’ll be labeled a snoop. If you find nothing, you’ll still be a snoop, and a sneaky one at that.
Move in with each other
This one is along the same lines as having a baby. Moving in together when your relationship is in trouble is just never a good idea; rather you’re inviting trouble. It may be an understandable response, but it’s illogical.
Understandable because you figure moving in together is one way of staying close to your partner. But guess what, your problems are going to follow you wherever you go. Though the change of scenery may provide a temporary respite, when your problems resurface, and the will, you now have the added responsibility, and complication, of a shared lease or mortgage.
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